Stranger Approaches Postpartum Mom In Target With A Proposition. Then She Pulls Out A Picture That Breaks The Mom's Heart
A new mom who just had a baby is fuming after a woman in Target came up to her to advertise a weight loss program. Keep reading for the full story!
As a brand new mom, the last thing Kelly Diane Howland needs in her life right now is to be hounded about her weight.
After all, she has literally just birthed a human beingâ€”a baby that now needs her constant love and attention, 24/7.
So she was not having it when a woman approached her in Targetâ€”while she was carrying her newborn baby around the storeâ€”about a weight loss program.
The woman handed Howland a card with more information about the program, but Howland has decided not to share her contact info.
In an eye-opening Facebook post, Howland revealed exactly how the woman tried to slyly approach her in the store:
I am shopping in Target with my obviously fresh baby. I'm a brand new postpartum mom. A woman approaches me and chats me up the usual small talk about "how old is she?" and "how much does she weigh?" And then she asks The Question. "Have you heard of It Works before?" I tell her that I know what it is but I've never utilized it. She proceeds with artificial shock and surprise and gives me her card and her spiel.
While Howland understands that this woman had a job to do, she certainly doesnâ€™t think itâ€™s fair to make a woman who just had a baby feel badly about her weight:
Listen. I'm not upset this company exists. And I'm not even upset at this woman because she could be absolutely charming and just trying to hustle her own living and I have respect for a woman with guts to do that.
But let's not pretend that approaching me specifically was a coincidence. Because it's not like she ran up to every female at Target to hand out her card. But she did come to me - with my baby billboard of being brand new postpartum. We all know that this culture hammers into postpartum women a lot of physical insecurity about their bodies after delivering their miracles from their wombs. I don't think I have to spell out for a single woman the cultural pressure that postpartum mothers face regarding their physical appearance. We know. We all know. She knew. And that's why she approached me.
At the end of the day, while Howland doesnâ€™t blame this woman for trying to sell her product, she does hold society accountable for putting these body expectations on new moms:
Can we PLEASE not perpetuate the pressure, the impossible expectations, and therefore keep alive the insecurities that we newly postpartum women face regarding our new and changing bodies as we enter motherhood? Instead of leaning into superficial ideals imposed upon us, can we PLEASE start bucking the system and instead start praising each other for being the amazing, life giving, creation birthing vessels that we are? Can we just offer each other adoration of the amazing things that we've accomplished and see our physical changes as marks of phenomenal accomplishment that only our sex has the privilege of experiencing? My body doesn't need to be wrapped or squeezed or changed. It needs to be valued and revered for the incredible life it just brought into this world. THAT is beauty and THAT is all it needs.
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